Half Decent Desperate Advice
The book overall was written in a style that men who are in trouble of a messy divorce or being incarcerated could understand, so that is good for a starting point if your in that sort of situation but I wouldnt stop at this book, if you are really trying to get Help to change your life and your ways. It is written to save a relationship, not actually confront an explosive tepmer. The ABC advice is excellent for A & B. Although I have read and understood other anger book methods that do make more sense to practicing self control for your anger or temper tandrums. However the C suggests that you lie to overcome a fit. This is only a temporary fix and it may solve your angst at that time, in the moment but overall you are not dealing with your true self and why you are angry. Following the methods in this book is simply covering up and making your relationship work, so the advice does not follow a sound logical long term goal of coming clean, being honest and accountable. A rageaholic, like an alcoholic doesnt want the responsibility in the first place (many times why theyre angry) and one lie just leads to another, and so on. Women Hate lieng worse than a bad temper and the author seems to suggest that any alternative is better than abusive behaviors which to some extent is true but if you want to have a humbled and honest to goodness relationship that is a solid foundation for a family any lie is a crack in that foundation. Anger is covering hurt feelings that are usually more deep rooted than one realizes, I suggest reading this in combination with other self help books, like Anger Kills, the journey from abandonment to healing and Self Matters. The combination understanding of a few titles should give one enough information to find reasonable methods that will help but the knowledge is only a tool, the work is actually impying the recommendations in the moment.
ABC is Easy to Pass Along
We facilitate a Batterer's Intervention Prevention Program (BIPP) and I share the recognition of cursing and speeding as homework exercises to complete after orientation and before first session. Very interesting response and most are positive and honest with comments like; "I wasn't going to do it because it seemed too basic, but you planted the seed and it really works", and of course we have the response "I don't curse or speed" (and these are the same ones that say "I don't know what I am doing here, I didn't do anything")... It is amazing to see how many begin to implement the "stop cursing" thought process immediately, making the initial communication the first step in making change. Thank you so very much for providing an easy "non-threatening" tool to share with many, allowing one to prepare a foundation for being accountable for behavior choices and changing abusive and/or controlling behaviors.
Anger Busting 101
This is an excellent beginning towards coping with anger caused by the direct or politically correctness forced onto you by the status quo. I suggest reading material that may be closer in relation to your own beliefs and that particular author may assist in coping with the world. For example, Goad is the author for a book called The Redneck Manifesto. Entertaining but a different perspective of things.
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